You’re taught to trust your doctor. You put your life in their hands, with the faith that they want what is best for you, as their patient. However, that is not always the case–it was not the case for me. Too often they end up doing what is best for them–for reasons of time, money and legality.
Would you defy your doctor?
When I started prenatal care, I was told by my clinic that I’d be allowed to go to 42 weeks before an induction. When I neared my due date, I was told I was only allowed to go to 41 weeks. They set an induction date (of Dec. 26th–41 weeks + 1 day) and told me they would normally schedule it even earlier than that, but because of Christmas, they didn’t. I let them go ahead with it because I figured I’d have the baby by then on my own.
On December 23rd, with no baby in sight and the holidays coming up, I called to cancel my induction. I told them I wanted to move it back a few days. Why? To give the baby more time to come on his own. That’s not a good idea. It’s dangerous to go that late, we shouldn’t even be letting you go to 41 weeks, even that’s too late. Well I just want to push it back a couple days. You’re increasing your chances of harming your baby, he could spend weeks in the NICU and his chances of fetal demise increase. But most first time moms go late, past 41 weeks. No, they don’t. Ok, well I still want to move my induction date. We’ll have to call you back. ((So they did… and this time, my OB was the one on the phone.)) Okay, we’ll move your induction date to December 29th, like you wanted, but you need to sign a paper saying that if something is wrong with your baby, it’s your fault, not ours, because you refused earlier induction. Okay.
I then hung up the phone and sobbed. I knew what I wanted and I knew my baby was alright. But they scared the crap out of me. That’s what you get when you defy your doctor.
When I went into labor on my own and arrived at the hospital very early on the morning of the 26th (the day they originally wanted me induced, ironic), the OB on call came in my room. I had a huge smile on my face (between the contractions, ha) because I was ready to have a baby! She glared at me and said “so you’re the one that refused your induction date.” That’s what you get when you defy your doctor.
But that’s when I lost the battle and I ended up with an unnecessary c-section. Why didn’t I defy her one more time. Well, it’s not like I didn’t try. After saying “no” at least 8 times…. I lost.
But this lady did not. An article was published by CNN about a woman that had 3 previous c-sections and her doctor scheduled her 4th cesarean and refused to let her attempt a VBAC (vaginal birth after cesarean). What did she do? After researching the issue and discovering ICAN (International Cesarean Awareness Network), she defied her doctor–she never showed up at the hospital for her surgery and 3 days later her baby was born at home. After 20 hours of labor and just 4 minutes of pushing, she had the vaginal birth she wanted, in the peace and quiet of her home. This is what can happen when you defy your doctor.*
*I realize this is not what always happens when you defy your doctor and I realize that not all doctors have this mentality. I am very, very thankful for having doctors and the good that they can do. I’m not trying to tell everyone to always defy their doctor and not listen to them… what I’m trying to say is know what you want, stand up for what you want, educate yourself and be knowledgeable.
Would you defy your doctor? Have you?