We all know the saying “terrible twos.” And then I hear other people say there’s no such thing–apparently their kids are freaking angels. So how is it possible that I think my son (16 months) is ALREADY acting like a “terrible two?!” And it’s not new–it started maybe a month ago?
Here’s what I see:
Other kids his age out in public with their parents… the kid gets interested in something they aren’t supposed to have or they start walking away somewhere they aren’t supposed to go. The parent takes away whatever they have or they block their path and redirect them somewhere else. The kid? Is totally fine with it. Couldn’t care less. Life goes on.
MY kid? Will throw himself on the ground, slam his head backwards (with no regard to what may be behind him–such as a cement floor or wall), and scream like the world is ending.
Example: in his swim class (all kids his age), we put little life jackets on them so they could float. Not one single other child had an issue with this. Mine? Tantrum. Refused to let me put it on him and tried to slam himself backwards (right into the pool.)
When I describe his behavior to another mom, pleading for someone to tell it’s NORMAL, I get sympathetic looks and a response of “I’m sorry, I’m sure it’s normal, but my kids never acted like that.”
Sooo… it’s not normal? I mean, I really do think it IS normal, but it’s sooo frustrating to see every other child out in public listening to their parents and NOT throwing fits when something is taken away or when they have to walk left instead of right. And my kid is the one everyone is staring at because he won’t stop screaming about it. What did I do?!
OH and then get this–I swear during every swim lesson, the instructor would be watching me and Ryan (as he’s the only one having tantrums). She’d try to come over and play with him when he was getting upset–which I honestly think just made the situation worse, but anyway. One day she starts talking to me and my friend about knowing your child and knowing when something is wrong. In her example, she said she thought there was something different about her son around age 18 months, but doctors said it was nothing–just behavior. Well now he’s like 3 or 4 (I can’t remember) and is being diagnosed with autism. And you know what she told me (looked right at ME and told me)?! That *the sign,* the reason she knew, was because she’d put him on his changing table and he’d arch his back upward and throw a fit.
When Ryan throws his tantrums, he arches his back. He throws his whole body backward–so yes, if he was lying on a changing table, that’s exactly what it would look like.
So she tells us this, and is starting right at Ryan.
Ummmm, back off lady, are you trying to insinuate my child is autistic?!?!!
Can anyone out there relate? Can anyone PLEASE tell me this is NORMAL?! And… what can I do about it? How do I handle these situations (besides sweating and running away, lol).